There is a question if a Muslim woman can marry a non-Muslim man.
It is widely in the Muslim world understood that only a man can marry a non-Muslim spouse, while the woman can't marry a non-Muslim spouse. Provided that the sposue is not a pagan.
That is the result of long-term men rule, and manly interpretation of Islam.
However, it is to say that the Qur’an doesn’t forbid a Muslim woman to marry a non-Muslim man, provided the same conditions are met as for a Muslim man to marry a non-Muslim woman. Again, provided that the spouse is not a “pagan” which doesn’t even exist any more, except in some remote parts of any country large enough to have a remote village.
Since the Qur’an doesn’t forbid it, I don’t see a problem for a Muslim woman to be married to a non-Muslim guy, if he will let her practice her own religion, and make sure that he doesn’t force her into anything not allowed by Islam to be done, such is a murder, adultery, cheating, and other bad things one can do.
Again, the Qur’an forbids some things, some things are listed as permitted, by we understand that only the list of forbidden things are forbidden, and other things we don’t forbide unless there is a clear comparison to a forbidden things. Like, plugging off some old guy for eutanasia, or something, causing something bad to happen, without us directly doing it. Those are forbidden.
But, analogy of marrying somebody to me is the same with what a man can do, and especially since there is no a ban on that deed.
In a men ruled society, maybe 1000 years ago it was implied that women couldn’t do many things, but analogy tells us this:
Umar R.A said once that women shouldn’t come to the mosque. A woman stood up and said, Yo, Ummar, the Prophet didn’t forbid us, and surely you won’t too.” Unto which Umar appologized.
So, there were surely other things banned to women, which the prophet didn’t forbid to them. Which were surely not even mentioned in the Qur’an, like “women in mosque”. The Qur’an doesn’t even touch it. It only says: “Men who do good, and women who do good, … (Surah Al-Ahzab [33:35])
so where is the room for sexism and male dominance? Surely not in the Qur’an. I know others might point out certain misunderstood (by the men-interpreting the Qur’an, which itself is nowhere to be found in the Qur’an to be the only gender to interpret it - contrary) verses upon which men might think that we’re any way better than women - contrary, we’re equal, according to the Qur’an, and according to the last sermon by the Prophet, which was heard by thousands of people all at once, it was said: “Men and women are partners”. It wasn’t said that men are better than women. Or that women have one degree less. Whoever can count those degrees, he might explain what it means, what’s it worth, that one degree understood to be given to men over women.
That’s not the case today, as everybody provides for food. Many cases is where a woman earns much more, or a guy doesn’t work at all. Does then, that one Qur’anic degree switches to women, or is it turned off totally? And, of course there might be a certain “point” for the one who “provides” the money, but how come “three times mother” before one father? It seems that mother love and what she does is 3 more important than what a father does. So, what’s with the point? Also, all the faith-related verses are clear that men have not a point of advantage over women towards God. So how come that’s not the case for the Muslims? Muslims are the ones that give points to men over women, even if they don’t know what that “degree” means. And the degree is clearly only for the providing part. “Men provide”. They don’t any more.
So, it is the same for both, or all genders, the point is to remain in your Islamic faith, and to offer the children your faith, without forcing them, or anybody into some other religions.
P.S.
I think that children shouldn't be told about religion at all. However, this is for the people who love somebody of different religion. I think that the Muslims should open their eyes, and as much as possible, free themselves from the grasps of 7th century men controlled Arab society's rules.
It is widely in the Muslim world understood that only a man can marry a non-Muslim spouse, while the woman can't marry a non-Muslim spouse. Provided that the sposue is not a pagan.
That is the result of long-term men rule, and manly interpretation of Islam.
However, it is to say that the Qur’an doesn’t forbid a Muslim woman to marry a non-Muslim man, provided the same conditions are met as for a Muslim man to marry a non-Muslim woman. Again, provided that the spouse is not a “pagan” which doesn’t even exist any more, except in some remote parts of any country large enough to have a remote village.
Since the Qur’an doesn’t forbid it, I don’t see a problem for a Muslim woman to be married to a non-Muslim guy, if he will let her practice her own religion, and make sure that he doesn’t force her into anything not allowed by Islam to be done, such is a murder, adultery, cheating, and other bad things one can do.
Again, the Qur’an forbids some things, some things are listed as permitted, by we understand that only the list of forbidden things are forbidden, and other things we don’t forbide unless there is a clear comparison to a forbidden things. Like, plugging off some old guy for eutanasia, or something, causing something bad to happen, without us directly doing it. Those are forbidden.
But, analogy of marrying somebody to me is the same with what a man can do, and especially since there is no a ban on that deed.
In a men ruled society, maybe 1000 years ago it was implied that women couldn’t do many things, but analogy tells us this:
Umar R.A said once that women shouldn’t come to the mosque. A woman stood up and said, Yo, Ummar, the Prophet didn’t forbid us, and surely you won’t too.” Unto which Umar appologized.
So, there were surely other things banned to women, which the prophet didn’t forbid to them. Which were surely not even mentioned in the Qur’an, like “women in mosque”. The Qur’an doesn’t even touch it. It only says: “Men who do good, and women who do good, … (Surah Al-Ahzab [33:35])
so where is the room for sexism and male dominance? Surely not in the Qur’an. I know others might point out certain misunderstood (by the men-interpreting the Qur’an, which itself is nowhere to be found in the Qur’an to be the only gender to interpret it - contrary) verses upon which men might think that we’re any way better than women - contrary, we’re equal, according to the Qur’an, and according to the last sermon by the Prophet, which was heard by thousands of people all at once, it was said: “Men and women are partners”. It wasn’t said that men are better than women. Or that women have one degree less. Whoever can count those degrees, he might explain what it means, what’s it worth, that one degree understood to be given to men over women.
One degree for one (gender?) over another
If the Qur’an is clear in what most of people understand to be the reason for that one degree, it’s the idea (not a fact) that “men provide for food”. I say it's an idea, an assumption according to which "men provide for food, women stay home".That’s not the case today, as everybody provides for food. Many cases is where a woman earns much more, or a guy doesn’t work at all. Does then, that one Qur’anic degree switches to women, or is it turned off totally? And, of course there might be a certain “point” for the one who “provides” the money, but how come “three times mother” before one father? It seems that mother love and what she does is 3 more important than what a father does. So, what’s with the point? Also, all the faith-related verses are clear that men have not a point of advantage over women towards God. So how come that’s not the case for the Muslims? Muslims are the ones that give points to men over women, even if they don’t know what that “degree” means. And the degree is clearly only for the providing part. “Men provide”. They don’t any more.
Conclusion
So if a concerned Muslim woman want's to stay a Muslim, and marry a guy who is not a Muslim, she should worry only for the freedom to stay Muslim and to raise children in Muslim faith - the same what a man needs to have. If a man will be weak and let his non-Muslim wife raise children to be some other faith, he can't marry either - according to the Muslim belief.So, it is the same for both, or all genders, the point is to remain in your Islamic faith, and to offer the children your faith, without forcing them, or anybody into some other religions.
P.S.
I think that children shouldn't be told about religion at all. However, this is for the people who love somebody of different religion. I think that the Muslims should open their eyes, and as much as possible, free themselves from the grasps of 7th century men controlled Arab society's rules.
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